Ok. I’ve had a smarty pants idea. I’m going to try the online dating thing again.
Yes, again. After three failed attempts I am jumping in, head on with no wet suit. And I am going to commit to 30 days of it, at least.
I pledge I will not give up after a week and I will date. And when I say date I mean date in the way my grandmother used to date before she was married. I will casually meet for lunch or a drink, get to know my suitors before deciding which one I’ll invest more than a minute of my time with. Platonically, we’ll get to know each other and I am not going to limit myself to the first man who asks me out. This time I’ll use the hook and release technique until I sink Mr. Perfect.
Back in my grandmother’s days, you didn’t stick to one guy right off the bat. No way. You were totally allowed to go out with a few until it was more serious on the serious side. In high school, when I had my first boyfriend (and first love) my grandmother didn’t have any problems voicing her disapproval. “Dear, I don’t agree with your seeing only one boy. At your age you should have many boyfriends to go out with every weekend.” Putting your eggs in one basket as a teen was a definite no-no.
A first date, even a second one, shouldn’t mean you can’t go out with anyone else. If you’re simply getting to know each other, trying to figure out if you have that spark that makes this potentially more than a friendship or a total waste of time.
What’s the problem of dating more than one man at a time? You aren’t being deceitful because you’re trying more flavour in the batch. Unless of course you want to stick to one flavour because there’s this undeniable attraction that instantaneously makes you decide you don’t want to date anyone else… but then would that be considered love at first sight? Sadly, at this stage of my life I’m not sure that exists although the romantic in me longs for it to.
To be completely honest, I’ve never really dated like this before. There was a brief period of time in my late 20’s where I listened to the advice of a friend who claimed you never said no to a free dinner. After a couple of weekends of boring dinners that needed multiple cocktail beverages to endure I gave up on that notion.
So, I am embarking on this fishing journey in the world on online dating with the clear intention of luring a few inspiring catches. No chickening out allowed. I will say yes to the interesting men that ask me out and I won’t be shy away from a second date if it doesn’t go all sparks and lightning bolts the first time. And if needed, I’ll do the asking if no one is asking me. *sweat breaks out on brow*
It’s time I got back in the sea… or at least started getting out of the house for things other than playgrounds and work. It scares the crap out of me but it’s got to be done.