Dear Baby Daddy,
Yes, I realize it’s been two-years since we’ve heard anything from you. Not even an email to inquire how your supremely beautiful, smart, talented and sweet little girl is doing. Which is fine. You’ve never made an effort to know her and she really doesn’t know what she might be missing, which at this point I doubt is anything more than heartbreak since you’re track record is one of not caring, or at least not showing you care. But, I digress. This letter is not one to complain of what you have or haven’t done. Rather, it’s a letter to thank-you.
I would like to thank-you for not being that meddling, deadbeat dad who pretends he knows what’s best for his kids while missing visits, breaking promises and refusing to pay child support because he doesn’t have enough money for himself at that moment.
Thank-you for not being that annoying ex who uses his kids to get back at their mom. Feeding them lies about the other parent, trying to create a gap between the maternal bond of mother and child. Or the kind of father who only sees the paycheck his kids could get him if he was the primary caregiver. I mean, who needs to work when you can make the hardworking mom who is trying to set a good example for her kids pay the child support. Who needs that job when you’d also get child tax credit as well? I mean raising a kid isn’t that hard. Turn on the TV and yell at them when they’re bad. They’ll be just fine.
Most of all, I would like to thank-you for giving me my best gift ever. She is truly my blessing in life and everyday is that much fuller because of her smiles, laughter, cries, hugs and temper tantrums. I have no idea how I managed in my life before my daughter, as it was devoid of so much love… a love that grows more and more each day.
Since you choose to not be a part of her life, I get to be there all the time. I don’t have to share one minute of her with anyone else. I will be that parent at every game, every dance recital, every Christmas because you made that choice. And now that I realized by never knowing you she isn’t missing you, I know that we are better off without you.
So thank-you, for being that dad who was merely a means to an end. You had you’re chance and now it’s up to the precious being you helped create to decide when she might want to track you down. Otherwise, all the beautiful moments in her life belong with me. And I will forever be grateful for that. Thanks.
Sincerely, a mother who loves her child more than words can describe.